Considerations For ‘Cuffing’
Now that fall is here, the leaves drop, the trees change color and the weather gets cooler. As the seasons change, viewpoints of a relationship do as well. During the summer things are busy. In turn, the fall and winter weather cause people to desire for some affection. This annual phenomenon is commonly referred to as “cuffing season.” Originating from the word “handcuff,” cuffing season is similar because people hold on to someone for a period of time. This is the relational season when people who would normally rather be single find themselves desiring to be ‘cuffed’ or tied down by a serious relationship. This season often starts late October and can go on until March.
One must consider a few things, however, before choosing to “cuff” someone and what is to be expected while with the person.
First and foremost, cuffing season is like a sports draft. You have to choose wisely. If you find that the person has deep issues and might be a problem in the future now, you should consider another person.
Second, for those of you who do not want a serious relationship, the easiest way to avoid uncomfortable breakups and issues that follow it is to make things clear from the start. Let the person know that you are not looking for a serious relationship, rather someone to spend time with during winter months.
Next, always keep it real. At a certain point (about two months in), both people need to be completely honest with each other. If you both do not feel the same way, then you should consider breaking up before someone’s feelings get hurt. Remain honest throughout the season and try not to lead anyone on. This same honesty applies to social media. Before posting pictures of each other, see how the other person feels about it and make sure that you both can deal with being on social media as a couple. Once pictures are posted, you may be asked difficult questions by nosy friends and followers.
Finally, whether your intentions are to make the relationship long term or not, always take your time. Cuddle time, eating food and watching movies, and late night calls may be nice but they can always be addictive. This can cause rushing and forcing things that lead to a relationship that you may not want. And if you are looking for a serious relationship, then don’t let these things be the reason you jump into one. You should certainly enjoy the moments you spend with each other, but keep in mind that it’s a time that may not last forever.